Sonja Foust, Romance Author

Today is Robbie’s and my 5-year wedding anniversary. Yep, we’ve been hitched for 5 years! I have several friends headed for matrimony in the near future, so I feel inclined to give a little advice on obtaining the matrimonial bliss that I’ve experienced in our 5 years together:

1. Choose your battles, and make them go away when you can. If you fight over everything you disagree on, you won’t do anything but fight. Even two people who agree on most things will disagree on a lot when their lives are tied together as tight as they are in marriage. Don’t fight over it all. Give in gracefully on the stuff that’s maybe not really that important to you, and work to find a solution to the other arguments. Robbie and I used to argue a lot about cleaning the house. Neither of us wanted to do it, but neither of us wanted to live in filth, either. You see our dilemma. When we got to the point where we could afford it, we hired cleaners. It’s the best money we spend every month, and one fight we never have to get into anymore.

2. Support each other’s dreams. Your spouse is the person who has the most right and the most opportunity to hear what your dreams are. You have the ultimate power to make your spouse feel really good or really bad about their dreams, so use your power for good, ok? Do what you can to make it happen for them, and celebrate with them when they make it.

3. Laugh. You’re not always going to be happy, but laugh anyway. Find things to laugh together about, whether they be movies or inside jokes. You feel closest to the people you laugh with, I think. Robbie and I have a lot of jokes that no one gets but us. That’s part of being friends and partners, and you can’t have a fun marriage without it.

4. Spend time together. Hopefully, you married your best friend, so why wouldn’t you want to spend time with them? Plan vacations, even if they are weekend or day trips. Share experiences, and make memories!

5. Don’t fart in the tub. Just don’t.

Hope that helps all you newly-weds and nearly newly-wedded! Congratulations to you and I wish you the best. Marriage isn’t always easy, but the rewards are great.

Love you, Robbie.

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