Baby Name Obsession

When people tell me they have kids, one of the first things I always ask is, “What are their names?” You can tell SO much about people by what they name their children. Are they traditional? Modern? Trendy? Midwestern? Southern? Religious? All of that comes out in how people name their children.

I don’t really know why that fascinates me so much. Part of the reason, maybe, is that I am so happy withΒ my name. My parents had four kids, and each of us has a not too popular– but not weird– name. My name is Sonja and my siblings are Joanna, Joel, and Aaron. From Joel and Aaron, you can tell that my parents are religious, or at least familiar with Biblical names. And if you knew that my sister and I are twins, you would know that my mother especially values individuality. (She never made us dress alike or share our toys.)

I read baby name blogs and I have been keeping a list of names I like, probably since high school. And I’ll tell ya, kids are not in the near future for me, and they especially weren’t in high school. I just like picking names. Good thing I’m an author– it at least gives me some outlet for naming people, although I have to defer to what the characters’ parents would have named them, so I don’t always get to name them whatΒ I want to name them.

So what about you? Do you have any weird obsessions for no particular reason? Please tell me I’m not alone in the world…

Oh, and here are the baby name blogs I read. Jump on the bandwagon!

Name Lady
Nancy’s Baby Names
The Baby Name Wizard

  • hmm…i wonder what my baby's name is going to tell you about me? πŸ™‚ i like the new site design, btw!

  • hmm…i wonder what my baby's name is going to tell you about me? πŸ™‚ i like the new site design, btw!

  • Jamie

    My cousin named their son Orion (yes, like the constellation) and their daughter Emily. I'm all for name consistency – I suggested Aurora Borealis for their little girl, not sure why they didn't take that? I mean I can just IMAGINE the fights their kids are going to have =)

  • Jamie

    My cousin named their son Orion (yes, like the constellation) and their daughter Emily. I'm all for name consistency – I suggested Aurora Borealis for their little girl, not sure why they didn't take that? I mean I can just IMAGINE the fights their kids are going to have =)

  • This is why I hate naming characters. It's so hard. For our kids we took an easy out and wanted to have the kids named with the same initials my husband and I had. (except our youngest is different than mine because I don't like most of the male N names.)

    But it was a starting point. Funny thing was we were told we were having a girl as our first child. We couldn't agree on a girl name. Even upto the delivery we didn't have a girl name. But just in case we could agree on the male name. Low and behold we had a boy. Yeah us. We could name the baby. πŸ™‚

    In naming my main characters, there are times I search for a meaning before picking a name. And then there are times the character says I'm this name.

  • This is why I hate naming characters. It's so hard. For our kids we took an easy out and wanted to have the kids named with the same initials my husband and I had. (except our youngest is different than mine because I don't like most of the male N names.)

    But it was a starting point. Funny thing was we were told we were having a girl as our first child. We couldn't agree on a girl name. Even upto the delivery we didn't have a girl name. But just in case we could agree on the male name. Low and behold we had a boy. Yeah us. We could name the baby. πŸ™‚

    In naming my main characters, there are times I search for a meaning before picking a name. And then there are times the character says I'm this name.

  • Thanks! I don't guess there's any chance you're going to share what the baby's name is going to be? πŸ˜‰ I'm sure you'll pick something lovely.

  • Thanks! I don't guess there's any chance you're going to share what the baby's name is going to be? πŸ˜‰ I'm sure you'll pick something lovely.

  • Yeah, see, that's weird. Sibling names should match.

  • Yeah, see, that's weird. Sibling names should match.

  • Ha, that's funny, Beth. I think boy names are WAY harder to pick. Good thing it worked out for you, though!

    I used to search meanings before picking character names, but it led me down some weird paths, so now I pick a name first, THEN look up the meaning and chuck it if it's too wild and crazy.

  • Ha, that's funny, Beth. I think boy names are WAY harder to pick. Good thing it worked out for you, though!

    I used to search meanings before picking character names, but it led me down some weird paths, so now I pick a name first, THEN look up the meaning and chuck it if it's too wild and crazy.

  • Wow, picking names for my children was so incredibly difficult. Should have gotten a head start like you. So tell me, what do my girls' names say about me/them? Ayla Maryn, and Ellery Claire.
    Also, my odd obsession…all of the shirts in my closet read left to right in order of sleeve length, then by fabric weight. hello personal freak flag.

  • Wow, picking names for my children was so incredibly difficult. Should have gotten a head start like you. So tell me, what do my girls' names say about me/them? Ayla Maryn, and Ellery Claire.
    Also, my odd obsession…all of the shirts in my closet read left to right in order of sleeve length, then by fabric weight. hello personal freak flag.

  • I sit through credits at the end of movies to look for interesting names – useful for characters, as my husband has prepicked our kids names before I even came along (not that I'm terribly bitter about that or anything)…

  • I sit through credits at the end of movies to look for interesting names – useful for characters, as my husband has prepicked our kids names before I even came along (not that I'm terribly bitter about that or anything)…

  • Alana

    I'm child free and will be until I die, but should the world go crazy and change that fact, I am a big fan of Gwendolyn for a girl (called Wendy for short) and Maximillian for a boy. I also like all of those hard, Germanic G names… Gretchen, Gretta, Gretel… (could you get away with naming a girl Gretel or is it too tied up in the fairy tale?) I think the last-name-as-first-name trend is repellent, especially with odd spellings (Myckynzie? Ugh!) and while my favorite middle names change with the seasons, I do think that a middle name has to be one syllable long or stressed on the second syllable for cadence's sake. Marie, yes. Mary, no.

    So yeah, lots of thought for someone who isn't having children!

  • Alana

    I'm child free and will be until I die, but should the world go crazy and change that fact, I am a big fan of Gwendolyn for a girl (called Wendy for short) and Maximillian for a boy. I also like all of those hard, Germanic G names… Gretchen, Gretta, Gretel… (could you get away with naming a girl Gretel or is it too tied up in the fairy tale?) I think the last-name-as-first-name trend is repellent, especially with odd spellings (Myckynzie? Ugh!) and while my favorite middle names change with the seasons, I do think that a middle name has to be one syllable long or stressed on the second syllable for cadence's sake. Marie, yes. Mary, no.

    So yeah, lots of thought for someone who isn't having children!

  • Lisa

    The biggest problem with picking names is that your spouse may not have the same views. You might love a particular girl’s name but then your husband says “oh, that was my first girlfriend’s name.” Cross that one off the list. Or you are on different planets when it comes to boy names and are forced to explain to your husband for the fifth time why you refuse to name your son Selby Janewick. I saved that long list of boy names so Holden would thank me one day.

  • merindab

    I'm named for my grandmother, and the family story is that her name was a mistake and should have been Miranda, but they didn't understand *her* grandmother's accent. And so Merinda stuck. I've since found out Merinda is actually minorly popular in Australia, of all places. Now I need to go to Merinda, Australia, before I die.

    I also swore up and down if I had twins I wouldn't give them matching names. Twins run in my family. My birth mother is Patricia and her brother is Patrick. Or Pat and Patti.

  • merindab

    I'm named for my grandmother, and the family story is that her name was a mistake and should have been Miranda, but they didn't understand *her* grandmother's accent. And so Merinda stuck. I've since found out Merinda is actually minorly popular in Australia, of all places. Now I need to go to Merinda, Australia, before I die.

    I also swore up and down if I had twins I wouldn't give them matching names. Twins run in my family. My birth mother is Patricia and her brother is Patrick. Or Pat and Patti.

  • Ayla and Ellery are really cute modern names, Dottie. πŸ™‚ I'd say you picked fashionable and sweet ones.

    Is lining your shirts up in order of sleeve length weird? Because I do it too… only then I order by color instead of fabric weight. Heehee.

  • Ayla and Ellery are really cute modern names, Dottie. πŸ™‚ I'd say you picked fashionable and sweet ones.

    Is lining your shirts up in order of sleeve length weird? Because I do it too… only then I order by color instead of fabric weight. Heehee.

  • As half their DNA will be yours, I say you duke it out for naming rights. πŸ˜‰

  • As half their DNA will be yours, I say you duke it out for naming rights. πŸ˜‰

  • I had a little dolly when I was little named Gretchen, although I'm not sure who picked her name. It wasn't me– she was just always Gretchen.

  • I had a little dolly when I was little named Gretchen, although I'm not sure who picked her name. It wasn't me– she was just always Gretchen.

  • What a cool story, Merinda! I think that makes names even more special– to have a family story attached to them.

  • What a cool story, Merinda! I think that makes names even more special– to have a family story attached to them.

  • Oh, he's very reasonable. I get to pick the middle name for a daughter and the first name for a son – he's claimed our daughter's first name and our son's middle name. πŸ™‚

  • Oh, he's very reasonable. I get to pick the middle name for a daughter and the first name for a son – he's claimed our daughter's first name and our son's middle name. πŸ™‚

  • Well that sounds fair. πŸ˜‰

  • Well that sounds fair. πŸ˜‰

  • I know – what am I thinking to complain about having a child with a name picked before he even began dating me? I'm so crazy like that. πŸ™‚

  • I know – what am I thinking to complain about having a child with a name picked before he even began dating me? I'm so crazy like that. πŸ™‚